Want your relationship to last forever? In this article, Beauty and Tips uncovers the secrets from those who have made sure their relationship goes the distance.
Nobody wants a relationship to end. Many of us get into a relationship with the hope that this is the One.
However, we know that relationships do end. As such, it’s important that we keep ourselves in check so that we don’t set ourselves up for disappointment.
All relationships starts off with the initial honeymoon period. You’re madly in love with each other, any fights are just playful, and life is amazing!
Eventually, cracks begin to show. Boredom creeps in. You start arguing. Perhaps you say things you later regret. After weeks of this, you begin to wonder if it’s worth carrying on.
But in your heart, you know you still love them. You know you want this to keep going.
All relationships have fights. It’s natural. You can’t live with someone all your life and not have disagreements. There will be testing moments where you want to give up.
But strong relationships are those that overcome these difficulties. Relationships that have lasted and which are happy and healthy have had the same difficult moments as yours have had. But they’ve overcome them. They’ve swerved boredom. They’ve stayed on track.
How? Let’s take a look at 10 relationship secrets from long-lasting couples.
Prepare Meals Together
Who does the cooking all the time shouldn’t be enough to make or break a relationship. But if you’re both working hard and only one of you seems to be doing all the cooking, this burden can create resentment.
Happy couples point out that it’s important to share duties. But while cleaning together means one of you will be in one room while the other is another room, cooking together means you’re both side by side in the kitchen. As such, it promotes teamwork, bonding, and you can challenge each other to experiment.
You can chat while you cook, too, and catch up on your day.
Remember That Work Is Required
As much as we’d like them to come readymade, relationships come in a kit. In other words, we have to work hard to put all the pieces together.
A happy relationship isn’t always plain sailing. No relationship is.
But that doesn’t mean you should quit. It’s just love’s way of telling you to tweak things and figure out what works.
All of us are on our own personal journeys, and we’re all making mistakes. We’re all learning what it is to be human, and we all have inner conflicts.
Can you imagine, then, how hard it is for two people to come together and take a shared journey through life? There will be obstacles to overcome. But if you wanted this to be easy, perhaps you’re just not ready for a relationship yet.
Treat Each Other
When was the last time you properly treated your partner?
Shower them with treat. Surprise them with a weekend getaway or a bottle of wine.
Make them breakfast in bed. Prepare their bath for them. Make them happy!
Make A Joint Bucket List
Couples who have been together for a long time have done a lot of stuff together. In other words, they’ve had a joint bucket list that they’ve both been able to tick off.
Bucket lists give you both something to look forward to together. Instead of drifting through life doing the same thing week in, week out, you’ve got solid, exciting goals to achieve.
Spend some time writing down what you both want to do together this year, next year, the year after that and the years after that. Get out of the humdrum routine and achieve shared dreams!
Have Some Understanding
You’re from Venus and he’s from Mars. As such, there will be things you don’t understand about each other.
When he makes a mistake, have some empathy. Try to see things from his point of view. He’s human, he’s man. He has different motives and expectations to you.
Spend Some Time Apart
No, we’re not saying that you should take a break from each other or the relationship. But it’s really healthy that you both have separate interests and time to work on these interests.
Couples who spend 24/7 together can get really resentful. Not all couples, but some definitely can.
“You never let me see my friends anymore!”
“I feel trapped!”
Sound familiar? Even if you haven’t expressed these things, you might have felt them.
Couples need breathing space. Being cooped up together all the time is unhealthy. For a relationship to flounder, we need friends and activities outside our relationship.
Don’t stop your partner from hanging out with other people. Don’t become dependent on them. Give them space, and give yourself some space. Come up for air every now and then.
Aim For Quality Time, As Opposed To A Quantity Of Time
When you spend time together, make it count. Don’t badger him to spend all day with you when all you want to do is watch TV and annoy him. Let him do what he needs to do, and plan to spend quality time with him when he’s free.
There is an old saying that goes something like this:
“People in love lie around and get fat.”
You’d better believe it’s true!
Don’t lie around, bored. Don’t let your relationship peter out. Keep the excitement going. Be active together. Go exercising, take classes.
Long-lasting, happy couples will tell you that solid communication is the foundation to their relationships longevity. It’s essential. If you can’t communicate openly, clearly and honestly with each other, your relationship is doomed to have a short lifespan.
Communication ensures there are no misunderstandings. It ensures things don’t back to bite you in the bum at a later date.
Being open and speaking out about your feelings also means resentment isn’t allowed to build and build inside you, until eventually it explodes.
Always air your grievances straight away. Be open and candid. It’s necessary for progress.
Ignore The Little Things
Lastly, don’t turn molehills into mountains. He will do small things that get under your skin. His quirks will irritate you.
But so what? Big deal. Let him have them. Remember that no one is perfect. Don’t let it bother you so much.