This kind of “hope” sets us up for disappoint because those fantasies are merely reactions to a difficult period in our life. We call this hope but it’s a fantasy. We get attached to the idea of it and then imagine we can’t possibly be happy without that fantasy. Should this fantasy actually happen, we are shocked when we’re still unhappy.
Happiness comes when we learn to live today with all of its highs and lows. When something tragic happens in our life, hope used constructively can motivate us to keep going and get us through.